Sometimes You Got To Play Hardball

Sometimes you have to play hardball to be of service to other people.

As a coach, my job is to always hold the highest potential and possibility in my mind for my client. But what happens when the client doesn’t have the same belief? What happens when they don’t invest in coaching, when they obviously need to?

Look, we can argue all day long about the validity of my opinion. We can argue about the importance of the client having a choice and doing things when it’s right for them. All of that means nothing in the long term, unless the client is already challenging their limitations.

If a client approaches you in the capacity of coaching– they want coaching. They want help.

If a client spends time talking to you – even if it’s a free session – they want help.

As the coach, you need to get out of your own way and offer it.

And if you’ve done your job right, you’ll know what’s important to them now. If the client says no to an ongoing coaching relationship, you need to be on your guard.

Even if you risk allientating this person by speaking truth, you owe it to them to do so.

The truth is that most people will not achieve their goals and dreams, not in their highest potential. This is not being melodramatic. It’s the truth. It’s not that they can’t, they simply won’t go for it because they don’t believe they can do.

And beliefs are just assumptions we hold to be true. How crazy to think that you may miss out on your grand life design because of an assumption.

When you are a coach, you have a sacred responsibility.

In fact you have this responsibility even if you aren’t a coach….. You have it simply because you are alive right here and now and have it within your power to influence and assist other people.

But you can’t let them get away with living the same story, the same lie.

Don’t be another cog in their wheel of accepting less than they can be.

Sometimes you have to call them out, call their bluff and say “Ok, let’s get this handled. Are you really in on this or was it just words?”

Sometimes you have to play hardball to be of service to other people.


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Chris Lianos has been a student of prosperity for over 15 years. A corporate professional, he has also run a successful Network Marketing business. Chris is a certified Reiki Master in 3 disciplines, holds a PHD in Metaphysics, in an ordained minister and is a NLP Master Practitioner. Chriss passion is in empowering people to find that place of inspiration where their passions can be aligned with every day life.


  • Jeff Lord
    Jeff Lord

    Great message Chris! I love it! I learned a phrase that I use when you are talking to someone and they told you that they wanted to change but are now coming up with excuses why they aren’t taking the actions needed to get to where they want to be. I say “When you told me ________, were you serious or were you just kidding around?” For example, When you told me that you wanted to increase your income and work less hours so that you can spend more time with your family and be able to pay for college for your kids, were you serious or were you joking around? This helps to get people back on track and puts their focus on what was important for them to begin with!

    • Chris Lianos
      Chris Lianos

      Love it Jeff. Thanks for sharing. It’s a great way to keep someone on point and aligned with their goals. They are either serious or not.

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